“Only your real friends tell you when your face is dirty”.
Who said: “Sicilian Proverb“.
Just like the Sicilian said: only your real friends tell you when your face is dirty. I might add that fake friends are people who would tell you you have got a glowing visage and tell the planet of the filthiness of your face. It is a well-known truth that no man is an island, and thus we all have friends and the blessing of friendship or a minimum of what we expect are friends. And in fact, having been around for a short time and having learned from the experiences of others.
I do know that very only a few folks have real friends in every sense of the world. The type that might genuinely celebrate our successes with us, join us in our moments of despair. And, laugh with us when all is beyond hope. And, mirth is all that’s left for us to while the time away with. As we approach the lop.
For most people, unfortunately, we are evil with deeply flawed friendships. Also, people that hold deep-seated unwell feelings towards us and are about foes, except we call them our fellows. Often all it takes to point out their true colors may be a little bit of success, or failure for that matter, coming to a method. And, their tongues will wag negatively at every chance you are not present.
This behind the above talk manifests itself in three ways. These ways are well understood. And only vary to reflect context. These are:
1. Tall Poppy Syndrome
In this case, do you have to get ahead in life support by genuine merit? Your own blessing of friendship or friends are among the primary ones to form sure you are resented, attacked, thwart, and viciously criticized; usually in your absence. And, this is often actually because they feel your talents and your achievements somehow elevate you above them and their situation in life. And, distinguish you from your companions, who would be them during this case. Of course, these actions do not help them in the least and are just an example of what false friendship can do for an individual who happens to urge before those in his circle.
2. Dog within the manger
In this repetition of negative friendship, we have friends who will do everything they will to form sure; you are cockblock by being mother hens or third wheels. Also, it delays unnecessarily if they themselves are running late, thanks to no fault of yours. You fail at something they need absolutely no chance of winning for themselves. Deny opportunities they can not have, and even leave their thanks to concealing and withhold actually would be happier having you be aware of.
3. Complainer Mind ( Crab Mentality )
This third one is that the worst of the lot and is what’s often mention as “crabs within the bucket mentality“. It denotes a defeatist way of thinking during which people, usually passing themselves off as friends. They are stuck in the same circumstance as you stuck. Prefer to confirm if they can not have something then neither do you have to. So, the metaphor itself springs from the behavior of live crabs thrown into a barrel. Whereby any crab that individually tries to climb out of the container and observe its escape. It is grabbed and dragged down by others during the useless competition which prevents any from getting out. And imminently results in their collective dying.
When it involves behavior among humans, and worse among people that call themselves friends and who should be searching for every other. Also, it is often seen in instances during which those in your immediate circle will plan to pull you down, dismiss, negate, explain negatively, rubbish, and diminish the importance of any among their ranks who achieves success beyond the group. This is often right down to negative competition that within the end pulls everyone down to an equivalent lowly depths.
I want to say that nowadays the real friends are not real, and they do not tell us that our face is dirty or neat. It is no wonder that we sleep in communities that hate successful people and make tricks of their possessions. So, you should tease the defeat of such people, especially if they only happened to possess risen from equivalent dirt during which we, the crabs, remain working.
That is the reason as I generally lay alert considering the goals of these, I consider companions. All the more so considering some of the unnecessarily destructive things they affirm despite my good faith. Furthermore. as I much frustratingly on my difficulty, in stress, I whisper a supplication of words received from VOLTAIRE:
“God ( O! ALLAH ), shield me from my friends; I can watch out of my foes”.
So, sometimes real friends do not tell us that our face is dirty when they are in search to drag us down.